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M-Day on Friday
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Feb 8, 2011 (original poster member #31137)posted at 3:16 PM on Tuesday, September 25th, 2012
Moving Day
I would have posted this sooner, but I wasn't sure whether to put in Separation/Divorce, New Beginnings or here in General.
I get the key to our new house (as in my new house where the kids will spend ~50% of their time) on Friday. 
As you might imagine, there is a lot of tension in our current house right now, and to be honest, some sadness.
It is far too close to the current house (2 minute walk), but that was my choice...most of the kids friends already know where to come find them in their new home. I have taken to calling it their cottage, because it is further north and the boys will have to share a bedroom.
I hope to soon be strong enough to start paying it forward on JFO and here in General.
Sincerely,
Sept 28, 2012 
D-Day see username
and maybe March 11, 11
ME: 45 yr old BH
Her: 40 yr old WW
3 kids
married 11 years
Who is this woman in my house?!
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hardtimesinlife ( member #10468)posted at 4:18 PM on Tuesday, September 25th, 2012
All the best to you in your new cottage I'm sure you'll make it into a lovely home.
Ddays 2004 & 2007
I cut my losses mid 2013
Feeling happier every day :)
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stillstrong ( member #36144)posted at 4:37 PM on Tuesday, September 25th, 2012
Good luck to you. M day was hard for me when I turned the key in the lock, but by the end of the day, I was so peaceful. It's been 8 days, I keep waiting for the despair to hit, but I keep waking up happy.
I hope you find peace in your new home too.
Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13
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nowiknow23 ( member #33226)posted at 4:40 PM on Tuesday, September 25th, 2012
Your decision to put the kids first in picking where to live speaks volumes.
Sending you smooth move mojo.
(ps: love the signature )
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
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ZenMumWalking ( Guide #25341)posted at 4:52 PM on Tuesday, September 25th, 2012
((((Feb))))
You are a great dad to be keeping things so consistent for your children.
Sending you strength for your move, and best wishes for moving forward.
((((Feb))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024)posted at 5:31 PM on Tuesday, September 25th, 2012
I am surprised, but not really, Feb 8, 2011. I had no idea you were considering moving out, although I didn't know how you could bear to live the way you were.
I am sure you are sad. It is very hard to have to make these decisions. I really am happy for you, though. You deserve so much more. I am happy you are moving forward.
Of course, you are a great dad. You have always thought of what is in the best interest of your children.
Best of luck in your cottage. I am sure it will soon be filled with joy, laughter and happy memories.
(((Feb 8)))
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
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wonderingbull ( member #14833)posted at 5:38 PM on Tuesday, September 25th, 2012
You've turned that corner and are on your way...
Enjoy the peace of your new place...
WB
The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
James Taylor
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vickie1957 ( member #31075)posted at 1:11 AM on Wednesday, September 26th, 2012
((Feb))
wishing you strength and peace as you move onto this new chapter.
here we go again
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GreenMom ( member #36385)posted at 1:53 PM on Wednesday, September 26th, 2012
Good luck with your move!
DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!
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Feb 8, 2011 (original poster member #31137)posted at 5:14 PM on Friday, September 28th, 2012
Thanks everyone.
Lawyer just called, keys are ready for pick-up, but I am at work for a couple more hours.
My 5 year old D packed her suitcase two days ago...she told me she had enough to stay 3 days and 2 nights.
I will be without Internet for roughly 72 hours, so have a good weekend.
Sincerely,
Sept 28, 2012
D-Day see username
and maybe March 11, 11
ME: 45 yr old BH
Her: 40 yr old WW
3 kids
married 11 years
Who is this woman in my house?!
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ZenMumWalking ( Guide #25341)posted at 5:41 PM on Friday, September 28th, 2012
((((Feb))))
Have a great internet-less weekend with your children in your new place!!
((((Feb))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
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