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Feb 8, 2011 (original poster member #31137)posted at 5:19 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
My WW might be interested in the results...please answer yes or no...
Is there anyone on here who has completely gotten over the discovery of their WS's affair in 21 days and moved on as a happy, well-adjusted person immune to triggers and mind-movies?
D-Day see username
and maybe March 11, 11
ME: 45 yr old BH
Her: 40 yr old WW
3 kids
married 11 years
Who is this woman in my house?!
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Kamkim ( member #29672)posted at 5:21 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
no
8 months from dday, not even close to over it, and all he did was send OW text messages.
[This message edited by Kamkim at 11:34 AM, March 1st (Tuesday)]
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sad/madtothebone ( member #29150)posted at 5:22 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
Will be 9 months on the 4th, and that would be a BIG no. Only a rug sweeper of epic proportions would be "over it" in 21 days. Just my very jaded opinion.
Feeling like I will never know the truth. Wondering if I can live without it or will it eat me up in the end?
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phoenix_vs ( member #29193)posted at 5:22 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
Do people heal from bad childhood experiences in 21 days?
Or do they deal with the fallout for years? Or maybe for life?
I'm not sad that you lied to me. I'm sad that I can never believe you again.
Well, I'm sad that you lied to me, too.
posts: 371 · registered: Jul. 31st, 2010 · location: Great Falls Montana
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deb3129 ( member #30315)posted at 5:22 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
no
I am pessimistically optimistic
Me- 45
WH- 38
Married 15 years, together 18. Two kids together, boys age 11 and 12.
DDay-11/29/2010
I never knew that something could be this painful and not kill you.
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Between a Rock ( member #30871)posted at 5:24 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
No for me as well.
But you, you’ve gone too far this time
You have neither reason nor rhyme
With which to take this soul that is so rightfully mine
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canttrusthim ( new member #27794)posted at 5:25 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
NO :( A year out and still trying to move on!
It took so long just to feel alright
Remember how to put back the light in my eyes
I wish I would have missed the first time we kissed cuz you broke all of your promises
And now your back....You dont get me back..and who do you think you are
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Drew_n_Va ( member #31043)posted at 5:26 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
Not hardly. I'm over a month in and it has only become slightly less intolerable for me.
Me: BH 60 her: fWW 51 Married 29 years 3 Beautiful Kids (23, 17, 15)D-Day: 1-26-11Status: Reconciled"From Happy to Separated to Divorcing to living together again in 16 Days."
Endeavor to Persevere
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sayitisntso ( member #24953)posted at 5:26 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
that would be a NO
(hugs Feb8)
Me: BW
Him: WH
DC: 13
DDay: May 2009
In limbo until he walked out
Separated Sept 2017
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toby ( member #10337)posted at 5:26 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
No.
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circlingthedrain ( member #25733)posted at 5:27 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
No, I'm out 3+ years and still have triggers quite often. They are less severe than when I was closer to D-day but they are still there. This is your new normal.
BH (me), 53
FWW (Her) 55
DD18, DS15
D-Day 12/23/2007
R going well
Wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then --- Bob Seger
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velveteer ( member #30997)posted at 5:27 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
nope - 6 weeks out and nowhere near it.
Divorced
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Feb 8, 2011 (original poster member #31137)posted at 5:28 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
Wow...this is going to be more one-sided than a Libyan election.
[This message edited by Feb 8, 2011 at 11:28 AM, March 1st (Tuesday)]
D-Day see username
and maybe March 11, 11
ME: 45 yr old BH
Her: 40 yr old WW
3 kids
married 11 years
Who is this woman in my house?!
posts: 717 · registered: Feb. 9th, 2011 · location: canada
id 5106453
victory ( member #31088)posted at 5:28 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
I'm guessing this was asked as a rhetorical question.
Absolutely not! She's obviously still thinking crazy if she thinks the answer would be yes.
Dday- 1-26-11 (7 month PA)
BH (me)-41
WW- 37
3 little kids (6-8-10)
married 11 yrs, together 17
Divorced summer 2012 (I think)
I HAVE CUSTODY OF MY GIRLS!!!
posts: 204 · registered: Feb. 4th, 2011
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thenon-goddess ( member #31229)posted at 5:29 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
Please tell me she does not truly believe that. Ugh....
Divorced! 4/1/16
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Williesmom ( member #22870)posted at 5:35 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
I am 5 years out from the first A.
I will never be over it completely.
Let me repeat: never.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
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phoenix_vs ( member #29193)posted at 5:35 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
They don't get it.
How many of us have heard "How much longer are you going to throw this in my face"?
Or the other classic "Get over it"!
You get over it. You broke up ten years ago. I guess.
Oh, ya, I'm still angry.
I'm not sad that you lied to me. I'm sad that I can never believe you again.
Well, I'm sad that you lied to me, too.
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SusanR ( member #29368)posted at 5:36 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
I'm out 6 months and I still feel fragile.
After 21 days, I was still mush.
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tryingtosmile ( member #30979)posted at 5:36 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
Big huge No. I couldn't even function for a month after I found out I was in such severe shock.
[This message edited by tryingtosmile at 11:37 AM, March 1st (Tuesday)]
B/S Me 37
W/S Him 37
OW Former Coworker OC born 5/11
4 DS 18,17,11,6 months
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cdnmommy ( member #30182)posted at 5:36 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2011
Are one-word yes or no the only acceptable answers?
Because I was going to answer "Yes, those who have had a lobotomy."
Me: BW
DDay: Oct 2010 + 6 weeks false R
2.5 (+?) year A with married coworker/my "friend"
2 great kids
Reconciling and healing
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